The wedding planning is coming along nicely, for the most part. We have a date, place, caterer, hall, and a bunch of ideas floating around in my head. We still need to find a photographer and figure out the flower/decoration stuff and figure out all the shower info.
But really, it's not that I'm worried about offending people or anything like that. I just really don't care. I don't care what we eat at my shower. Serve popsicles for all I care. I don't care what time of day it is. I. Don't. Care.
I don't want this to be some crazy huge expense and to stress people out. I just want it to be enjoyable.
The only things I stand firm on are my dress, my flowers, and not having a ring bearer or flower girl.
At the end of the day, when Aharon and I are married, that's all that counts.
Trust without borders
10 years ago
7 comments:
I'm also planning my wedding at the moment and feel almost the same way you do. My fiance's family really want his cousin to be a flower girl - she's nine and I can't seem to give any justifiable reason as to why I don't want one... especially as my nephews will be page boys. Can you put into words what I have been unable to?
Ummmm if you want a photographer who is cheap and does AWESOME work, I can ask Dennis. I'm sure he'd do it and usually he charges very little, and gives you a disk when he's done. Then you go get whatever printed that you want. He's done a few weddings and everyone has been happy with them. He'd be cheaper than a professional....
Shelley -
My fiance only has one cousin - a boy - on his side of the family, and he was in my fiance's sister's wedding in January. Everyone assumed he'd be in ours.
However, I have 14 cousins! I couldn't pick one of them and leave the others, and 15 children in a wedding is crazy.
It's your wedding. You can do what you want. Nephews are one thing. Cousins are totally different. If a flower girl doesn't work with the look of your wedding just say so and tell everyone to deal with it!
Steph,
I will definitely keep that in mind. There's a guy at my church who does photography and he actually has had me build him a couple computers, so I feel like I need to return the business. But I said something to him about the photographers I met and a bridal show starting at around $700 to $1,000 and how I was shocked and he said that's actually a good price. NOT COOL. Maybe I'll have him to some formal engagement pictures and get Dennis for the actual wedding. (And then I wouldn't have to wonder if it would be awkward to invite/not invite him!)
My fiance was the page boy at his aunt's wedding, so it's hard for him to tell her that her daughter won't be involved in our wedding. I just feel so angry about this. I really don't want to have to fuss over a child on my wedding day and I don't want to be involved in choosing her dress and sorting out where she has to stand or deal with an extra irrelevant detail that involves another set of people's feelings... but mostly I'm just being stubborn and don't like being dictated to. His mother already thinks I'm difficult because we wouldn't go with the wedding date or the venue she wanted. Urgh! I wish that this wedding was over already- I'm so looking forward to being married, I just don't want to be pushed around as I don't want to set a precedent for the future... does that make any sense?
That makes total sense! The other person commenting on this entry is an older cousin of mine. I was in her wedding. She's not in mine. Maybe she secretly hates me for it or maybe not, I don't know.
The point is this is not your future mother in law's wedding. Your fiancee gets a say but eventually you'll have to agree. If you don't want a flower girl then talk it over with him. My fiance got really angry when I said I didn't want kids in the wedding, but when I explained how I felt about it and all, he listened. It took him like 2 weeks to be okay with it but he is now. His mom might not be, but he is.
I do hate you... but I'm over it! lol. Anyway don't feel awkward about dennis, if you want to invite him do it, if you don't, don't. I don't care, and if anyone else does, tough luck it's your wedding. AND I'll just mention it in passing to him if you like... something like... Ummmm Sarah may need a photographer so I may pass your name along... be aware. Want me to do something like that, then if you need him you can use him and if not no big. And I doubt VERY seriously that he would charge you even close to 700 bucks. Remember those professional ones do all your developing too, and stuff. I'm sure your friend from church will be fine. But if he's to expensive let me know and I'll tell the D-man.
Whatever... it's your wedding plan away! lol. We all get to go through it, so enjoy! :)
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